The Next Right Things...

When it’s clear that everything will never be the same again,
Then I’ll make that choice, to hear that voice,
And do the next right thing…

It’s strange to take advice on grief from a Disney princess (even if she is one of the modern kick-ass ones), but when you lose your forever person, or someone really important, it’s hard to know how to find your way, since you know you aren’t who you once were, in the days before death reshaped your life. Step by step is the only way forward.

This is an attempt to document my journey of next right things, as I seek to be a new version of the person he loved.

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